The Misinterpretations of Dating Profiles
We’ve all heard Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. It’s true men and women are very different. We interpret things differently, we are all born, hard-wired to view our surroundings extremely differently. You can bark feminism all you want – but at the very core men and women have strengths and weaknesses that are obvious – and counterbalance each other. Also, I am not here to discuss the various genders or many subsets of gender that are in our society. This article is being written from my personal perspective regarding a m4w or w4m scenario.
All that being said… I recently had a discussion with a few single men and women about dating profiles and social media profiles in general, and listening to how the same information can be extrapolated so differently led me to write this chart. What women mean – and how men interpret it.
|THE SOURCE MATERIAL
A picture of a you on a dating site w another member of the opposite sex.
|WOMEN SEE IT AS
I put some pics of me and my friends up so that he knows I am social, and like to hang with people.
|MEN SEE IT AS
Awesome! She’s into chicks. I wonder if I can talk her into a 3way.
|The words Open Minded are on your profile.||I put that down to let guys know – I am up to try different foods, travel anywhere. I will even try snorkeling. I am pretty wild that way.||Wow! She’s REALLY into chicks. There’s no way I am not getting a 3some w this girl.|
|Multiple pics of you in a bikini||I work hard on my body, I am proud of what I got! I am happy to show it off.||She’s already showing me her body, she’s flaunting it before we even meet. I bet she’d be down for a 3way.|
|Picture of you licking an ice cream||I am fun. I like to treat myself every once in a while.||Oh my god! That is so sexy. Imagine that cone was my dong.|
|The words: ‘love to shop’ are in your profile.||I make good money. I can take care of myself. I am an independent woman||She’s looking for a sugar daddy.|
|Picture of you with a tiger||I hope no one thinks I am an idiot for posting a pic of me and this cute captive animal.||You’re an idiot.|
|Picture of you w a cute mustache finger.||Look how cute and quirky I am!||Maybe she’s subtly trying to tell me she’s transgender.|
|The phrase “surprising” is worked into your profile.||I hope he realizes how spontaneous I am!||OK, I think she’s definitely a dude.|
|You making duck lips in your pic.||Look how sexy I am!||I think she’s having a stroke.|
|A picture of you with a baby that’s not yours.||This will show him that I am nurturing.||She has a kid.|
|Your profile is multiple paragraphs long and very detailed.||This will ensure that I get a great match! I am laying it all out there.||I am 97% sure she’s a psychopath.|
Well, I hope this clears up some of the mystery for ya! One last thing that I have always found amusing is that I have seen countless times in a woman’s profile – something to the effect of – “don’t just say hi, or how was your weekend, or what’s up, etc.. BE creative!” And yet – EVERY single message I ever got from a girl who initiates contact first – has always been… “hey what’s new?”
Food for thought.
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